Growing Through the Pain
If anyone has ever broken a bone or had surgery then you are very familiar with the concept of pain. Physical pain is a concept that many of us have come to accept that we must live with on a daily basis. Those suffering from chronic debilitating illnesses such as fibromyalgia or Chronic Fatigue Syndrome know all too well how difficult it is simply to get out of bed some days. There are myriads of pills, lotions and tonics for what ails us physically but few for what hurts or pains us emotionally.
We have all heard the old sayings "No Pain No Gain" or "Pain is Inevitable but Suffering is Optional" but how can we apply them when pain enters our home and life. What can we do and where can we turn for help when we are truly hurting inside and don't know what to do? Part of the problem lies in the fact that we as a society don't really know how to handle someone who is broken. Think for a moment about this.....You pull up to a stop light or a corner and you see the man/woman sitting there with their cardboard sign asking for money or work. Quickly you speed up/slow down, play with your radio, pretend to look elsewhere or talk on your cell phone all so you won't have to make eye contact. Sound familar....
It is almost as if we pretend that if we don't see it, don't acknowledge it ...then it simply doesn't exist and we can go on with our lives pretending there is no tragedy, hunger, sadness or pain...until it strikes us. We can pretend it is "someone else" who has the husband who beats them, or the child on drugs who has gone wild. When we hear stories of people killing their wives and then committing suicide as was just in the news we can pretend that it is an isolated incident so that we don't have to connect with the possibility that "real" pain might exist...
Until we first acknowledge that there is pain/sorrow/ grief and hurting all around us we will not be able to move forward to any sort of resolution either in our own lives or in the lives of those we care about. Addiction/Anger/Affairs/Child Abuse....None of these things exist in a vaccuum. They are born out of pain and they generate new pain. They will continue generation after generation if not looked at and dealt with.
I urge you to really look at your emotional status and health and get help with the areas of your life you may need assistance with. The pain doesn't have to last forever. You can go and grow through it.
Brenda
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