WHEN THE HONEYMOON IS OVER....
So often times I am asked by callers " Why am I being treated this way"? They go on to explain how things were so great in the beginning of their relationship. He/She was attentive, loving, sex was great, all seemed to be so perfect for eachother. Then out of the blue......it changed. The phone calls start to lesson, we don't see eachother as often, and the sex becomes less exciting.
What went wrong?
We all know about the Honeymoon phase of a new marriage, but do we know about a new dating relationship? Did you truly get to know your partner? Were you compatable on other levels besides sex? What about communication? Did you share with eachother what you both were looking for, your expectations? Most often times the caller will answer..."No".
Most often the red flags begin to show early on in the relationship, but we choose to wear blind folds. We do not want to see the truth and only want to remain in bliss of the excitment. Negative behaviors start to show more often by the second or third month into the relationship. This is when you will start to see your partners true colors, so to speak. But we turn our heads and look away.We are begining to "accept" the negative behaviors that tear at our self esteem. Within time, we feel neglected, mistreated, taken for granted and abused.
We try again and again to change things, sharing our feelings and getting no results. Sooner or later the relationship will end, and we are left broken hearted and wondering ......WHY?
If you have found yourself in this situation it is time to take a look with in your own self , find the truth as to what went wrong. Why you tolerated this type of behavior and ignored those red flags you seen early on in your relationship.
If you can relate to this experience please post your comments. Maybe you can help someone else avoid the heartache you suffered. Share your story, and feel free to share your pain.
Many Blessings
Lilwings03